(Even if You Experience Over-achiever Guilt)
You’re judging yourself.
You feel guilty.
And perhaps a little ashamed.
Because you haven’t managed to work out in weeks.
You’ve been living off take-out instead of cooking.
And you can’t remember the last time you fell asleep without a half-folded laundry pile to keep you company.
All of this adds to the day-to-day anxiety you feel.
“You’re better than this,” you think.
“And you need to get it together.”
What if instead of asking yourself to do one more thing, you did one less thing?
What if the answer to stopping your anxiety is letting go of your over-achiever guilt?
In this post, I am going to share:
- How staying stuck in the over-achiever cycle impacts your productivity & health
- The immediate & future benefits of taking time out for rest
- A simple method for creating a personal vision of your life
- The 3 things holding you back from achieving your personal vision
- An enjoyable tool for reducing day-to-day anxiety
WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU TRY TO DO IT ALL?
When you’re feeling over-achiever guilt, you might find it difficult to ask for help or say ‘no’.
So, you end up doing everything for everyone.
And you rarely take time for yourself.
This only compounds the guilt you feel – directing it inwards.
And because you have no space in your life to deal with these feelings, you end up stuck in a cycle.
So, let’s talk about what happens because of this cycle.
First, your productivity suffers.
Not only that, but your decision-making ability & reaction time suffer too.
So the things you agree to do for others end up being sub-par in quality at best.
By staying stuck in this cycle, your health is impacted as well, putting you at risk for:
- decreased immunity
- decreased ability to learn
- low blood sugar
- heart disease
- work injuries
- depression & anxiety
HOW DOES TAKING TIME OUT HELP YOU?
In contrast, when you take time out to rest, when you ask for help, & when you say no – you experience the following benefits:
- Increased productivity
- Increased creative thinking
- Increased immunity
- Increased physical movement
- Increased satisfaction with your work
- Reduced stress
- Reduced inflammation
- Reduced risk of heart disease
- Better sleep
- Improved mental state
You’ve heard all this before.
So what is keeping you from ending the over-achiever cycle?
It may be that the benefits above do not feel personal to you.
HOW DO YOU CREATE A PERSONAL VISION OF LIFE OUTSIDE OF THE OVER-ACHIEVER CYCLE?
You need a clear vision of what a life without such high demands personally looks & feels like for you.
Close your eyes & visualize your day without the high demands.
- What do I see myself doing & how does it feel?
You probably don’t see yourself sipping pina coladas on a private island every day.
But maybe there’s a half-way point.
Maybe it’s waking up rested, putting in only the 40 hours a week you were hired for, & ending your day with a relaxing yoga session.
No matter what your vision is, it helps to have this personal vision in mind because it gives you something to work towards.
Once you have a realistic personal vision in mind – once you’ve lived it & felt it in your own mind – answer the following questions:
- Is it worth it to take steps to live this life?
- If not, what would make it worth it?
Yes, it takes effort to shift to a life that matches your personal vision.
And no, every day will not be perfect.
But if what you see is more appealing than a high-demand life with a ton of day-to-day anxiety, ask yourself this…
- Am I willing to commit to achieving my vision?
It’s YOUR commitment to YOUR vision that determines your next steps.
WHAT ELSE IS HOLDING YOU BACK FROM ACHIEVING YOUR PERSONAL VISION?
Once you’ve made a commitment to yourself & have YOUR personal vision in mind, ask yourself this…
- What else is keeping me from achieving this?
Aside from being willing to commit, there are a few other things that may be holding you back…
Your fears are often imaginary.
But if fear is holding you back, consider what is on the other side of fear.
If you took one tiny step forward, what would happen?
Take a tiny step forward today & notice that nothing catastrophic happens.
When you want something, you often compare yourself to others.
You ask, is it possible for me to have what they have?
If your assessment is ‘no’, then you’re less likely to take the next steps.
But if the people you compare yourself to aren’t in your personal vision, then they shouldn’t be in your assessment of what step to take next.
Lack of Planning.
Planning can often leave you feeling paralyzed.
You’ve never been there, so you don’t know how to start.
If what’s keeping you from achieving your personal vision is lacking a plan, click here to download my goal planner.
Keep in mind that a plan is simply a series of tiny steps.
You already know that you can take one step without catastrophic consequences.
So what’s stopping you from taking the other steps?
A SIMPLE TOOL FOR REDUCING DAY-TO-DAY ANXIETY
With all of that in mind, I am sharing one simple tool you can use to reduce day-to-day anxiety.
I put together this Contemplative Coloring Book filled with mandalas and journal questions to help you visualize a future of health & wellness balance.
Creativity has many amazing benefits.
It provides insight, helps us feel more positive, improves our self-worth, reduces stress, improves sleep, provides a pathway for emotional healing, & more.
And the great thing about this coloring book is that you don’t have to be Rembrandt to get started.
Take time out to indulge your creative senses, use the tools I’ve shared to create a personal vision of your life without such high demands, & start moving towards that vision.
No. Change will not happen instantly.
So, give yourself time & give yourself grace.
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